Quitting smoking is one of the tougher life changes to pull off. There are countless ways to go (the patch, cold turkey, nicotine gum, hypnosis, etc.). I don’t presume here to add a new approach to the fray. That said (and as with many life-changing activities) I think it’s critically important to see smoking (and quitting smoking, or the desire to quit smoking) within the context of your life as a whole.
How so? For one, smoking can be an important part of relationships–a shared activity among friends, business partners or spouses. It can be a way of meeting people (that casual chit chat in front of the building on a cold winter day, for example). Smoking can be a go-to habit for dealing with stress, or an excuse to walk away from a tense environment at work or home. For others, smoking is a way of carving out time alone (if others don’t want to be around the smoke, it becomes a great excuse to step away for a while).
I think you should quit smoking, and I think you should use any and all the help you can get. Just don’t related to smoking as an isolated piece of your life. If you want to change a habit like smoking, you’re going to have to change a whole lot more than that in the process. This undoubtedly means focusing on development, and that’s a good thing. Just know what you’re signing up for.