In my NYC therapy practice, I see how a collective sense of imminence leaves us stressed, anxious and disengaged from our relationships. Our lives are inundated with pressures from the world. Whether we are focusing on advancing our careers or have a case of fomo (fear of missing out), never before have we been so busy en masse. Deadlines and other pressures continue to escalate. Long work hours are the norm. The bar of success gets higher and oftentimes, we focus on out-performing ourselves. Technological devices have made it much more difficult to disconnect from the demands of the workplace even when we are out of the office.
Because of this, it’s becoming harder to give our loved ones our undivided attention. Our relationships are susceptible to the strains and hardships we experience in life. Most of us expect our relationships to be a safe haven from the outside world. Our relationships can be a place where we feel nourished and supported and feel some semblance of balance and refuge. However, the chronic demands that are put on us often inhibit us from properly reaping the benefits of these relationships. We must find ways to protect our relationships from the effects of stress so that our relationships can adequately provide us with the stable bonds, which we all need to get us through life.