Matt: I’ve been thinking a lot about trust and the ways that we understand it to be the opposite of distrust (The prefix “dis” makes this pretty clear). That understanding is so very wrong, and supports some pretty unself-protective ways of operating. In this construction, trust is a thing, for one who struggles with it,Read more
We Should Engage In More Emotional Labor, Not Less
The Problem With The Construction Of Emotional Labor Is It’s Anti-labor In the last few years, emotional labor has become a frequent topic of conversation, defining it among other kinds of labor that are unequally assigned, usually along gendered lines, with women taking on more of the work. While this discussion is undoubtedly crucial, theRead more
How Do Patients Benefit From Therapy With A Group Practice?: A Collective Conversation
Matt: A few years ago, we had a collective conversation about the benefits of working in a group therapy practice itself. Recently, I’ve continued to think about our group practice formulation and want to revisit the topic from a slightly different angle. What do you think are the benefits to our patients about the wayRead more
Celebrating Ten Years of Therapy in Tribeca
This Friday marks the tenth anniversary of Tribeca Therapy. Celebrating and considering how our practice has grown since I first opened the private practice in 2009, I think of our first little office, borrowing money from my dad to buy furniture, and later assuring Heather, Rachael and Karen after we expanded into a group practiceRead more
Tribeca Therapy On The Emotional Drive To Spend (Rather Than Save) In Money Magazine
Money Can Be The Way We We Act Out Our Wants Or Inadequacies As we’ve explored previously on our blog, finances are emotional, including the impulse to spend rather than save when getting a big raise, a new job or a bonus. Money recently quoted Tribeca Therapy in an article “The Psychological Trap That CouldRead more
Tribeca Therapy On Talking To Parents About Unhealthy Habits In Well+Good
Sometimes, in our NYC therapy practice, patients wonder how to best talk to their parents about unhealthy habits, particularly after the holidays when families have spent a lot of time together and observed each other’s lifestyles. However, it can be intimidating to approach parents with concerns without feeling either disrespectful or as if you crossedRead more
The Power Of Being Done
There’s Strength In The Idea Of Being Over It Recently, in my NYC therapy practice, I’ve been thinking about the power in being finished or done. There’s strength in the idea of being over it, whether being over a crappy job, a parent’s narcissism, a so-so relationship or just, this president. After the election, thereRead more
The Tween Parenting Dialectic: Tribeca Therapy In New York Magazine
Tweens’ Frequent Switching Between Wanting Protection And Independence Doesn’t Make Them Crazy, It Makes Them Tweens In our therapy with both tweens and their parents, parents often talk to us about tweens and young teens being labile, meaning they can switch quite quickly between wanting closeness, intimacy and protection, while also wanting freedom and independence.Read more
Practicing Couples Therapy During 2018’s Brett Kavanaugh Moment
One of 2018’s defining events, both nationally and in our NYC therapy practice, was the confirmation of Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh. Particularly inspired by Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s brave testimony in front of the Senate Judiciary Committee, women patients shared experiences of sexual trauma, harassment and experiences of close calls. Not only did theRead more
Parents Need To Be On The Same Page About Parenting
Disagreements About Parenting Can Be Challenging For Both Parents And Kids Heather and I recently hosted a discussion with parents at Portfolio School, a local independent K-5 school in Tribeca, about when parents aren’t on the same page about parenting. In Heather and my experience, both in our NYC therapy practice and out, the substanceRead more