Trauma is a rupture to the soul that needs care and attention

Whether one significant traumatic event or an accumulation of many traumatic experiences, both large and small, trauma is a rupture to the soul and a breach to the self, often with lasting consequences to a person’s well-being. Trauma is a profound and significant event or series of events that needs a particular kind of attention. Tribeca Therapy offers in-person trauma therapy in our Tribeca, Manhattan offices, as well as secure online options for New York residents.

When you experience trauma, you deserve more than merely withstanding it. We help people make sense of and make meaning out of their traumatic experiences. Even if it takes years of work, struggle, and care, if you can talk about trauma, name it, and get close to it, you can heal.

Post-traumatic stress disorder: We define trauma expansively and broadly in our New York City trauma therapy

It’s hard to make sense of trauma. Individuals who come into psychotherapy for trauma often struggle with the question of whether or not an experience or set of symptoms ought to be understood as trauma or something else. People also question whether a post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) diagnosis makes sense for them. Of all the weighty-sounding diagnoses, PTSD is the weightiest. In short, PTSD is an anxiety disorder resulting from acute or prolonged exposure to an intensely dramatic event or events. Following exposure to trauma, individuals suffering from PTSD can experience recurrent PTSD symptoms such as painful thoughts or dreams, flashbacks, traumatic memories, difficulty with sleep and anger, and other intense feelings and emotional distress, like anxiety and hopelessness.

Though PTSD is often associated with veterans due to its initial usage following the Vietnam War, trauma associated with war is not the only sufficient cause of the kind of suffering captured by the term. Many past experiences–rape, childhood abuse, assault, natural disasters, the COVID pandemic, the death of a loved one, and various other types of trauma, physical and otherwise–can cause serious, prolonged suffering of the magnitude that warrants a PTSD diagnosis. In fact, symptoms formerly described as indicative of personality disorders are being reclassified as a part of PTSD, otherwise known as CPTSD or complex trauma.

In our trauma therapy, we define trauma broadly and expansively. Trauma is, by definition, incredibly complex, and consequently, we follow no rigid formula in working with people who have endured traumatic experiences. While it’s hard to talk about every difficult thing that happened as trauma, it’s equally a mistake to ration the use of the word, which creates a hierarchy of pain and suffering and minimizes the accessibility of help.

We help people work through and make meaning from trauma

When ready, individuals who have suffered traumatic experiences benefit from working through these traumas. The key to trauma recovery is to acknowledge and reacknowledge what happened (even if you don’t always fully remember or understand it) and that it happened. This requires a trusted partner—a trauma therapist who has the skills and understanding of the balance between the imperative to talk about it and the need to create safe, stabilizing conditions in order to do so in talk therapy. Navigating this balance is an art. Sometimes creating these conditions for a sense of safety takes a long time. That’s okay. 

What matters is that our clinicians set a pace that finds the balance between creating the right conditions of trust and safety to move toward what happened while recognizing that confronting trauma and making sense of what happened means embracing a certain level of unsafety (within the safe context of therapy).

Trauma therapy also offers an opportunity to make profound changes

There are wonderfully creative ways that people develop coping skills to respond to trauma—things people do to make it through the world, some of which may no longer work, but served their purpose for survival. Sometimes this means burying the experience and symptoms and pushing forward, ignoring the effects of trauma. Other times, people turn to substance abuse. And yet others figure out ways to be extremely successful with their trauma, but that success represents a real compromise with their mental health.

Some of these adaptations and ways of being in the world don’t serve you anymore and harm your quality of life, which means we may need to do the difficult work of revisiting them. Ultimately, trauma is something (or some things) that happened that is significant enough to change who you are. The task in therapy is to also change. While it may sound trite, traumatic events, in addition to causing genuine suffering, are also opportunities for growth. Examining the ways you’ve lived before the trauma and after offers the possibility to make profound changes in areas you may have otherwise left unexamined and untouched.

Getting started with trauma therapy

By the time people who have experienced trauma arrive on our Manhattan, NYC office doorstep, they’ve likely endured and survived a lot. Here’s how we get started:

  1. Initial Call: We begin right away with a free consultation, a 15-minute call with a senior therapist. If your trauma symptoms are acute, we assess whether you need a higher level of care, like a hospital or residential treatment. In trauma treatment, we consider each individual’s needs. Sometimes, for instance, you may need to be seen more than once a week. We understand that trauma is hard to discuss, and you may not be ready to talk about it on this first phone call. That’s okay. It’s not a requirement that you explain your traumatic experience(s) over the phone or even in the first session.

  2. First session: Some people show up and are ready to talk about their traumatic experiences on day one. Others are terrified of doing that and are not even close to ready. Each of these and everything in between is okay. Our job is to come up with a treatment plan in which we continually negotiate (and renegotiate) how to set a pace in the treatment that creates the right conditions so that you’ll eventually get to a place in which you may be able to talk about it.

  3. Symptom management in trauma treatment: Experiences of trauma to the level that drives people to seek therapy often come with difficult, day-to-day trauma-related symptoms. While simply managing symptoms with evidence-based approaches is not a long-term plan as it doesn’t address the underlying cause of these symptoms, we offer a host of tools and modalities for managing the anxiety, painful thoughts, and physical symptoms that interfere with your life. Ideally, this treatment plan can also help create the conditions to eventually work through trauma.

Frequently Asked Questions

Words matter. We recognize calling something trauma can have negative consequences (making someone feel stuck or reinforcing a victim framework), while refraining from calling something trauma can, too, have negative consequences (like denying suffering, letting someone who harmed you off the hook, or over-blaming biology or willpower for a form of suffering that is a response to a traumatic event or events). While we are concerned about many stressors in the world—the experience of violence and suffering, cynical leadership, and an abundance of hate, there are very real traumas, and people come to us for help with them. Whether something is a trauma is something we decide together in therapy, and that understanding may change over time. 

This is an incredibly common experience for people who come to therapy. How you gauge what happened to you, particularly early in the process of working through it, is likely to change over time. Denying suffering of any kind and negating the reality of trauma is a harm. Trauma is an all-too-real experience, one that people deserve a good deal of help with.

This has been a popular notion in the last ten to fifteen years. Talking about trauma is incredibly difficult and requires the conditions to do it. One needs to be ready. One needs to do it with a trusted companion, i.e., a skilled, well-paced therapist. Many people arrive at therapy not ready to talk about what happened. Our job is to meet them there. That said, for most people, being able to talk about what happened is an essential part of getting better.

Many treatments help with trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder, but that doesn’t mean “anything goes.” We work fluidly between more practical approaches, aligned with cognitive therapy and behavioral therapy, that work to help manage the anxiety, panic, and related symptoms of trauma, some of which can become more intense when they receive more focus. Body work strategies borrowed from somatic therapies are also helpful. Because EMDR therapy is a specific sub-specialty, it’s not an approach we offer; though, like medication management, we do refer to EMDR therapists that we trust and coordinate care closely.

In most cases, long-term healing from significant trauma requires what we call “working through,” a process of making meaning of what happened from the safety of a strong therapy relationship.

This is an increasingly common question and way of working. EMDR is useful for many in managing symptoms, and it’s common for patients, especially when struggling with intense panic and anxiety, to engage in both EMDR and psychodynamic treatment. The latter focuses on navigating contemporaneous life concerns along with exploring the trauma at its origins.

This is a common experience. Managing symptoms like depression and anxiety that relate to post-traumatic stress disorder and trauma is an important task, but we want to do more than just manage. That usually means spending time with the trauma, as well as looking at how the trauma impacted how you’ve constructed your life. A common way we work is receiving someone for PTSD treatment who has received help from CBT, but is looking to do some deeper work.

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Meet our founder and clinical director, Matt Lundquist, LCSW, MSEd

A Columbia University-trained psychotherapist with more than two decades of clinical experience, I've built a practice where my team and I help individuals, couples, and families get help to work through difficult experiences and create their lives.

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