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Self-condemnation can masquerade as morality; curiosity is the harder moral choice
Harsh Self-Judgment Isn’t the Same as AccountabilityWe often mistake harsh self-judgment for accountability. If we have hurt someone, repeated a destructive pattern, or behaved in a way we regret, condemning ourselves can feel like the morally serious response. We may believe that calling ourselves selfish, useless, or irredeemable proves we understand the gravity of what we have done.But shame…
Oct 20, 2026
Implantation Loss Is a Loss Too and Needs to Be Grieved
Implantation loss is a very painful loss that should be grieved. Implantation loss, a failed transfer of a fertilized embryo, is a very real, complicated, and painful loss for the individual or couple hoping to conceive. It’s also a loss that our culture is not set up well to support. Infertility treatments are physically laborious, time-consuming, and draining processes that are often…
Jul 09, 2025
Welcome to Motherhood: You May Thrive, but You’re Going to Suffer Too (And That’s Okay)
A diagnosis can be helpful when suffering postpartum, but new moms don’t have to wait to get help. Whether postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety, new moms are told to look out for mental health issues after having a baby. Of course, this is important—a diagnosis can be integral to getting new moms the help they need. Particularly at the six- or eight-week checkup, providers like…
Aug 07, 2024
One of Our Most Important Jobs as Parents Is to Teach Our Children How to Suffer
Like it or not, teaching our kids how to suffer is a key part of parenting. If teaching our children to suffer doesn’t seem like a crowd-pleasing, headline-grabbing parenting tip, I get it. Suffering is, well, suffering. The belief that suffering not only can be avoided but should be avoided is so powerful that the very idea of suffering as something that needs to be encouraged feels possibly…
Jul 11, 2024
Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist Discusses the Many Struggles of FOMO on WNYC's All Of It with Alison Stewart
When we think of FOMO or the fear of missing out, we often imagine disappointment about a missed concert or envy at a friend’s big trip to Europe. Even though the acronym can sometimes fetishize the feeling, rendering it a consumable commodity (“I missed out but at least that means I have this cool, relatable thing called FOMO”), FOMO can indicate deeper struggles with isolation and a fear of…
Jul 10, 2024
Even People Who Have Money Feel Messed Up About It: But Look to Culture, Not Psychology for the Answer
While we don’t need yet another diagnosis, the experience of “money dysmorphia” can be very real and painful. The New York Times recently published an article about “money dysmorphia,” which they define as “someone who is irrationally insecure about finances.” While we do not need yet another popular diagnosis, the struggles the article exposes of feeling financially insecure when you have plenty…
Jul 09, 2024
