In Therapy, We Want You to Have Good Sex—Whether You’re Trying to Conceive, Already Pregnant, or Have a Newborn
In our remote therapy sessions at Tribeca Maternity, we make clear to patients that sex is the one area in your life both pre- and post-baby where we’re not going to settle for “good enough.” Whether you are trying to conceive, are pregnant, or have a newborn, sex should be fun, exciting, and make you feel good. At Tribeca Maternity, we don’t advocate that you have sex—we advocate that you have good sex.
It’s Also Okay to Decide to Not Have Sex Right Now
As important as sex is to people’s lives, just as important is the decision to not have sex. Whatever the reason (exhaustion, busyness, recovery), you might just not be into sex right now, and that’s okay. During pregnancy or postpartum, you need to be able to recognize and say when you’re ready for sex and when you’re not. Sex is about choices, and among the infinite choices about sex that we fight for at Tribeca Maternity is the choice to not have it.
There Are Lots of Ways to Have Sex
There are lots of ways to have sex, whether with a partner or with yourself. During pregnancy or postpartum, it’s time to get creative. In online therapy at Tribeca Maternity, we help individuals and couples learn how to have sex in different ways, both mechanically and relationally.
Couples: Good Sex Requires Communication
The key to having good sex is being able to navigate when to have it, how to have it, and the conditions of having it. This can be particularly challenging during the self-isolation imposed by COVID-19, when all parts of your and your partner’s lives are happening in the same shared space, making healthy emotional and physical boundaries harder to come by. All of this can affect your sex life. And it means you need to talk about sex, which isn’t easy for many people. In remote couples therapy, we’ll help partners talk about sex, including:
- How to establish and navigate boundaries in the mostly at-home world of COVID-19 so there is still a time and place to feel in the mood for sex
- What feels sexy right now
- How to voice what you want (and don’t want)
- How to verbalize needs, including when to slow down or not have sex
- How to try something different
- How bodily changes affect sex
- How to navigate sex with the lack of time and energy of having a newborn