Couples Are Naturally Searching For The Best Online Couples Therapy In New York

Whether in-person, teletherapy, or online couples therapy, the stakes often feel high in couples therapy. In fact, some couples are afraid that couples counseling might make their relationship worse, which means couples are looking for the best online couples therapy in New York right now.

So what does the best phone therapy or video chat therapy look like? We have been getting questions from couples who are both identifying a need for remote couples therapy, but are also feeling protective of themselves and their relationship, for a good reason. Below are the answers to two of the most pressing risk-related questions we’ve received about online couples therapy:

Is Remote Couples Therapy (Such As Phone, Google Meet, Or Zoom) As Good As In-person Therapy?

The answer is yes–online therapy sessions are just as good. And here’s why: together, the couple and therapist can still identify and understand problematic dynamics in a relationship, and then do both exploratory and directive work to rebuild a more healthy foundation. All the material with which to work that is present in the therapy office is also present on the screen in online couples therapy. 

A good video conferencing couples therapist should take strong leadership in the same way he or she does in the office. This is important to keep in mind, as simple as that sounds: you don’t have to know how to do the best couples therapy, in person or online. That’s for your therapist to know, and guide you and your partner in. Many couples therapists know how to adjust the work to accommodate any remote specificities, ranging from handling dropped calls to recommending shared screens/split screens to navigating being frozen just as someone was saying something brilliant. You’re also allowed to ask couples therapists about our histories working virtually prior to committing to therapy–establishing this trust in our ability is crucial to therapy.

What If Online Couples Therapy Makes Our Relationship Worse?

There is a common misconception amongst couples hesitant about online couples therapy that talking about–making space for or exposing–existing pain points in relationships will make them worse. This is only true if you don’t have the tools to talk about them safely and productively. The best online couples therapists know how to establish the conditions of safety necessary to make processing conflict or naming feelings of anger and hurt feel relieving and productive, rather than dangerous or harmful. 

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Meet our founder and clinical director, Matt Lundquist, LCSW, MSEd

A Columbia University-trained psychotherapist with more than two decades of clinical experience, I've built a practice where my team and I help individuals, couples and families get help to work through difficult experiences create their lives.

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