A couple consisting of two working parents requires work and negotiation. There are a lot of ways that families can function–values, habits, rules, practices and rituals. Parenting isn’t just about executing these, it’s about making active decisions about their shape. When both parents work, there are more decisions to make.
Decisions can be hard for any couple, but somehow decisions for parents with overflowing schedules seem to have much higher stakes. The less you are around, the more consequential decisions are about childcare, school, household rules, what traditions are valued, how vacations are constructed and how conflicts are resolved.