Couples
Why Is Everyone Suddenly Obsessed With Polyamory?
Polyamory has attracted a lot of attention recently: Why?. In case you haven’t noticed, polyamory is hot right now. In particular, the inner workings of polyamorous relationships have become a popular subject in the press, from the cover story in New York Magazine to an article I was featured in for MindBodyGreen. It’s not as if polyamory—or what used to be typically referred to as open…
Apr 15, 2024
4 Things Polyamorous Couples Can Teach Monogamous Couples About Sex
Polyamorous couples organize their sex lives in ways that could be informative to monogamous couples . Monogamy is a reasonable enough organization of relationships and is probably best for most couples. However, a truly healthy marital relationship ought to be built on an understanding that, as necessary as it may be, monogamy is nonetheless a bit ridiculous. Not only do polyamorous couples know…
Apr 12, 2024
What Monogamous Couples Can Learn From Polyamorous Couples: Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist in MindBodyGreen
Polyamory requires partners to navigate their relationships with more consideration and awareness than monogamous couples. Monogamous couples have the benefit of an already determined relationship structure. While polyamory is not for every couple (nor is it for most couples), this thoughtfulness could teach monogamous couples a thing or two about how to tend to their relationship. Our Founder…
Apr 11, 2024
Conflicts About Pets Often Symbolize Deeper Relationship Issues for Couples: Director of Supervision and Training Kelly Scott in The Wildest
If you’re fighting with your partner over your cats getting along or whether the dog can be in the bedroom during sex, is the conflict really about the pet(s)? Often it’s not. Our Director of Supervision and Training Kelly Scott recently spoke to The Wildest in three articles that break down how couples’ arguments over pets frequently symbolize deeper issues in the relationship.Most recently in…
Apr 09, 2024
We Nearly Blamed Rose: Why the "Other Woman" Trope Is So Persistent
One of the biggest social media frenzies of conspiracy theorizing and innuendo in recent memory was the furor around the whereabouts and well-being of Kate Middleton. After Kate’s announcement of her cancer diagnosis, there should be a moment of reflection, including how and why Lady Rose Hanbury was dragged into the fervor by being incorrectly labeled as “the other woman” in an unsubstantiated…
Apr 05, 2024
Apologies Aren't Always Nice (Part 2): How to Do Them More Thoughtfully (Hint: Slow Down)
Before apologizing, ask yourself: Am I expecting the hurt person to forgive me immediately?. In the previous part of this two-part series, I laid out how some forms of apologizing can put pressure on the hurt party to make the transgressor feel better as soon as possible. But people who struggle with tolerating the discomfort of these circumstances experience an equally difficult time identifying…
Apr 01, 2024
Apologies Aren't Always Nice (Part 1)
Apologies aren’t always as straightforward as an attempt to open the door for reconnection. You will hurt the people you care about. Ideally, apologizing is a way to own this mistake and make it clear to the person you hurt that you recognize your transgression, take accountability for it, and assure you’ll do your best to ensure it won’t happen again. Hurting someone you care about puts a strain…
Mar 29, 2024
Having Needs Is Human: A Therapist Grapples With Deceptions, Estrangements, and the Denial of Needs in 'Maestro'
“I don’t need!”: Having needs is an essential part of being human. [caption id="attachment_7040" align="alignleft" width="300"] Carey Mulligan’s Felicia Montealegre discusses her needs (or lack thereof) in Maestro (Courtesy of Netflix)[/caption]I can’t stop thinking about a scene from Maestro in which Carey Mulligan’s Felicia Montealegre addresses her husband’s deceptions and estrangements. She…
Mar 25, 2024
Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist on Sex Therapy (And Why Your Therapy Also Needs to Be Talking About Sex) in The Cut
Sex therapists are skilled specialists who have something to offer that even a very sex-positive and sex-savvy therapist doesn’t. However, if you’re not also talking about sex in therapy, whether couples therapy or individual therapy, your therapy is lacking. Our Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist recently spoke to The Cut about what to look for in a sex therapist and why talking about…
Mar 06, 2024
Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist Interviewed on Relationships in Salon and New York Family
A lot of events can alter the sexual connection and intimacy in a relationship, from financial concerns to the lasting effects of the pandemic to the sudden busyness of having kids. Drawing on his expertise in couples therapy, Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist recently appeared in Salon and New York Family to speak on how the chemistry between partners can be influenced by a variety of…
Feb 16, 2024
Senior Therapist and Director of Tribeca Maternity Rachael Benjamin Featured in Buzzfeed on Ways to Support (And Be Supported By) Friends
During periods of pain and suffering, individuals often need more from friends than they allow themselves to recognize or let others know. Being honest about how you’re doing or feeling and asking for help and community can be powerful, particularly in relationships like friendships. Our Senior Therapist and Director of Tribeca Maternity Rachael Benjamin recently spoke to Buzzfeed about ways to…
Feb 12, 2024
What to Do When We or Our Friendships Are Faltering: Look at Our Values
As your values shift, you may hit an impasse in some friendships . As I wrote in my previous post on friendship and values, friendship is best when your values are aligned. When your values are out of alignment with a friend’s, you frequently have to pretend to be someone you’re not or are no longer in order to “fit in.” This can feel lonely as you have to work harder to be accepted in a way that…
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