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One of Our Most Important Jobs as Parents Is to Teach Our Children How to Suffer

Posted on July 11, 2024 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Therapy

Like it or not, teaching our kids how to suffer is a key part of parenting If teaching our children to suffer doesn’t seem like a crowd-pleasing, headline-grabbing parenting tip, I get it. Suffering is, well, suffering. The belief that suffering not only can be avoided but should be avoided is so powerful that theRead more

Siblings Can Have Different Stories of Childhood: Family Therapy Can Help Complicate the Narrative

Posted on June 26, 2024 in Family Therapy

Even though they might have the same parents, siblings can have wildly differing narratives of the same family experiences. These discrepancies can have a lasting effect on adult siblings’ relationships, sometimes perpetuating years of conflict. Our Director of Supervision and Training Kelly Scott spoke with NPR about how working through these diverging stories in familyRead more

Parental Ambivalence Is Real and Complicated and We Need to Talk About It More

Posted on June 25, 2024 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Therapy, Therapy for anxiety, Therapy for Depression, Therapy for Stress, Tribeca Maternity

Parents can sometimes regret having children—they love their children, but they hate the job (and at times, they struggle with liking their children because they hate the job). As explored in a recent article in Time Magazine, these are painful and complicated feelings. However, they’re not as uncommon as society would have us assume. SocietyRead more

Lying Isn’t All Bad: Why and How to Be Curious When Your Kids Don’t Tell the Truth

Posted on May 22, 2024 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Therapy, Therapy for Teens, Therapy with Children

Therapy with children: Kids lie for many reasons and parents should be curious about what lies communicate We all lie—to ourselves and, in turn, to others. Adults lie for many different reasons, whether denying or avoiding a truth, convincing ourselves of something we want to believe, or protecting ourselves from a painful reality. So tooRead more

How to Not Raise Spoiled Kids: Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist in The Huffington Post

Posted on March 5, 2024 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Therapy

Some of the hardest work for parents is to tolerate that their children can both be wonderful and do things that aren’t so wonderful. However, this fact, along with the need to name and, when necessary, give consequences for bad behavior, is a key piece of raising kids who aren’t spoiled. Our Founder and ClinicalRead more

We Encourage People to Break up with Abusive Partners: We Should Do the Same for People Estranged from Families

Posted on December 20, 2023 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychotherapy, Therapy

In a culture that advocates for people to separate from abusive partners, estrangement is still taboo “Tell me about your family. Are you super close with them? What are your parents like? Siblings?” “Actually, I’m not really in contact with my family of origin…I’ve been estranged from them for the past several years.” “Oh…” DesperateRead more

The Holidays Can Raise Conflicting Feelings About Families: We Should Feel Them All

Posted on December 18, 2023 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychotherapy, Therapy

When choosing whether or not to go home for the holidays, there is a tendency to ignore feelings that conflict with our decisions As the end of the year rolls around, the much-awaited (and often much-dreaded) holiday season arrives faster than anyone is prepared for. Along with it comes big decisions about whether or notRead more

Your Teenager Is Cooler Than You

Posted on December 11, 2023 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Therapy, Therapy for Teens

Teens’ interests that parents see as odd are not just one of the greatest sources of life force: They’re also profoundly cool In my work as a therapist to both teenagers and their parents, parents frequently express concern—or roll their eyes—about their teens’ “weird” niche interests, styles, or views about the world and worry aboutRead more

We Teach Our Kids Not to Talk About Difficult Topics—That’s a Mistake

Posted on December 6, 2023 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Therapy

Kids know more than we think: Leaving them alone with fears risks them becoming adults skilled at forgetting scary things Kids know and observe a lot more than we imagine, from fairly benign topics to scary ones. There is a sort of unconscious deal that parents make with children. Parents pretend kids don’t overhear theirRead more

Going Home for the Holidays: Advice From a Therapist on Not Just Enduring Your Crazy Family

Posted on November 21, 2023 in Family Therapy, NYC Therapy, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Therapy, Therapy for Grief, Therapy for Stress

Painful family dynamics reemerge during the holidays: Reflect on them rather than just enact them Every year around the holiday season, patients shrug and say to me, “My family is crazy,” or, another variation, “My family is weird,” before setting out to simply endure the holidays. Of course, those little words—“crazy” and “weird”—can stand inRead more