Discussing your relationship with your therapist is an essential part of therapy Many online therapy-on-demand services explicitly tout the ability to switch therapists as a perk. If you hit a bump in the road, feel uncomfortable for any reason, or get mad at your therapist, including as a sign that you are growing, you areRead more
When Couples Therapy Isn’t Working: Director of Supervision and Training Kelly Scott in The Cut
There are times in couples therapy when things just aren’t changing. Sessions cycle through the same arguments with the same dynamics. Even though a couples therapist may be making insights and connections, nothing is shifting. At this point, two questions have to be asked. First, why aren’t things changing? And secondly—a bigger question—does the coupleRead more
How to Process (And Help Kids Process) Feelings About the Uvalde Shooting: Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist on All Of It With Alison Stewart
After the news of the school shooting at Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas this week, we’re all (yet again) processing a complicated myriad of feelings: grief, unsafety, fear, sadness, despair, anger, frustration, numbness, and much more. Our Founder and Clinical Director Matt Lundquist appeared on WNYC’s All Of It with Alison Stewart to respondRead more
We Need to Talk About Pregnancy in the Pandemic’s Second Wave
Being Pregnant (Or Having A Partner Who Is Pregnant) During The Pandemic’s Second Wave Is Emotionally Overwhelming In A Different Way Than In The Spring Providing therapy since the beginning of the pandemic, I’ve seen firsthand the toll it’s taken on pregnant women, their partners, and their families, particularly recently during this second wave. InRead more
What is it Like to Provide Family Therapy With Adult Siblings?: Two NYC Therapists Discuss
Adult siblings usually contact us for family therapy because there’s been a painful rupture, a series of hurtful events, or consistent distance that is no longer tolerable by one or more siblings. Therapy with siblings can be challenging, but also provides the chance to honor, question, disrupt, and reconstruct these familial relationships. In order toRead more
Being Pregnant in the Time of the 2020 Election: It’s Not Just Perinatal Anxiety, It’s Politics
In A Year Of Upheaval, Anxiety About The Election Can Feel Overwhelming, Especially If You’re Pregnant As the November election nears, many of my patients who are pregnant, as well as their partners, are struggling with a lot of anxiety. Anxiety during pregnancy, otherwise known as perinatal anxiety, isn’t unusual and is something many face.Read more
4 Things Indirect Aggression Between New Parents Can Be Hiding and 5 Things To Do About It
Conflict During New Parenthood Is Normal: But We Need To Turn Indirect Aggression Into Direct Aggression New parenthood is a time in our lives when all our messiness comes out and sometimes couples can get mean in both direct and indirect ways. In some respects, this conflict between new parents is both normal and toRead more
Off-Limit Feelings For Men And Women Are Often Different: Therapy Should Be Too
Feelings And Actions That Are Forbidden For Men And Women Are Different In a recent New York Times Op-Ed, author Holly Whitaker explores her experience with substance use recovery that was notably not done using an AA program. She writes that the current tenets and values of AA were derived from a patriarchal antidote toRead more
Setting Limits With Parents
In Therapy, Setting Limits With Parents Can Be Especially Difficult In my NYC therapy practice, setting limits with family members, especially parents, can be stressful and raise a variety of concerns. What makes setting limits with parents particularly difficult is that as children, we are supposed to learn limits and values from our parents andRead more
Sharing Our New Teen Therapy-Related Reading
Teen Therapy Can Address A Whole Host Of Topics: Read More On Our Teen Therapy Pages Working with teens in our Downtown therapy practice, we often see how teens’ experiences and feelings can be brushed off as merely a part of moody and angst-ridden adolescence by parents and other adults. As not only therapists treatingRead more