At Tribeca Therapy, we’re concerned about the ways that healthy is often conflated with conventional. Fewer and fewer people have a “conventional” relationship. Our patients have inter-faith and interracial relationships, second marriages and blended families. They are queer, their relationships involve intentional rejections of gender norms or they’ve explored open relationships. They’ve perhaps been on the brink of divorce or struggled with identity. Our job as couples therapists isn’t to clean that up. We see a rejection of convention, in whatever form that takes, as an opportunity to help couples discover more creative ways of being together and to define for themselves the sort of relationship and families they want to build.
Relationships are messy–in many ways, filled with frustrations and compromise. They can also be wonderful. So much of what our patients at Tribeca Therapy struggle with is the conflict between how they imagine their relationships should be, what they wished they’d be and the reality. We help couples approach the difficult task of refusing to settle for less than a great relationship while simultaneously working to recognize imperfections. Both are vital.