Social media is, by definition, not private. How you represent yourself and your partner, your partnered relationship and even, your separation or divorce on social media matters. We have to make explicit choices about that.
We find that couples we work with can find it a bit silly to talk formally about social media. On the surface, it can seem like a trivial matter. The fact is, for most of us, social media is a significant part of how and where we spend our time and the primary place where we share the goings-on of our lives. While it may seem silly, raising the issue of social media matters. It also creates a context to talk about how the relationship is represented elsewhere, with friends and family, and what each person needs to feel good about that.