In-person couples therapy allows for fewer limitations than on screen
We often say, half joking, that couples are on their best behavior when they come to couples therapy, but that doesn’t last. Good thing. The difficult messes of a relationship need to be contended with in therapy. Part of what couples therapy challenges, at its best, is the strict privacy of love relationships and family. Many cherish the relationship as a private space, but that privacy doesn’t always serve couples well. Working with a couples therapist is an act of inviting someone into your relationship. Having a therapist see the mess and the struggle, coming to know the relationship as much as possible, offers the opportunity to guide and help.
When this invitation comes with strict controls, like only relating to a couple through a screen, it limits how helpful a couples therapist can be. In-person couples therapy allows a therapist to see the relationship more fully in an environment outside of the partners’ everyday routine rather than in the comfort of their home or office. This creates a space that is closer to real life, where couples can “let their guard down” to give a therapist better insight into a relationship.