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Real Love is Not Being Able to Say Whatever You Want
The Myth That True Love Means Saying Whatever You Want In A Relationship Can Be Hurtful. A common relationship myth frequently perpetuated in our culture is that safety and comfort in a committed relationship are dependent on being free to say whatever you want to your partner. This myth is understandably appealing. It carries the promise of a level of comfort in relationships in which you don’t…
Nov 14, 2019
Tribeca Therapy On The Relationship Lessons That Can Be Learned From The Couples On "The Office"
Tribeca Therapy was recently featured for our couples therapy expertise in an article on Insider that highlights the practical relationship advice that can be gleaned from the various relationships depicted in NBC’s classic comedy The Office. From Jim and Pam to Angela and Dwight to Michael and Holly, these couples are not only fun (and hilarious) to watch, but can provide some essential…
Oct 31, 2019
The Overuse Of Antidepressants Isn't The Problem: It's Ignoring The Role Of Trauma In Suffering
There Are Many Common Criticisms Of Antidepressants, Including About Their Overuse . Criticism of antidepressants is a trope employed to a number of different ends. Some frequent critiques of antidepressants are that they are unproven (I think there’s mixed truth here–we know less about how antidepressants work than people think, but some users experience some relief and a small portion receive…
Oct 24, 2019
What Makes Millennials The Loneliest Generation?: Two NYC Therapists Discuss
Earlier this year, YouGov published an article citing data that Millennials feel lonely much more than Generation X or Baby Boomers. According to their findings, 30% percent of Millennials say they always or often feel lonely, compared to 20% of Gen X and 15% of Baby Boomers. Two of our therapists–Jordan Conrad and Emily Stuart–respond to the article with a conversation:Jordan Conrad: I really…
Oct 17, 2019
How Parents Can Help Their College Student's Transitional Anxiety
Starting College Is A Social And Emotional Transition For Your Young Adult. When your young adult goes to college, parents are aware that the academic challenges will increase. But what we don’t often talk to our kids about–and what frankly can be hard to discuss–is that there is a big transition for young adults in college both socially and emotionally. Your college student has to navigate brand…
Oct 03, 2019
Why I Want To See Your Dating Profile
Dating Apps Help Us Talk About Who You’re Attracting And Attracted To. While it may not be what brings them into therapy, a good portion of my work with most patients includes looking at their relationship history, examining what went wrong with specific people, identifying patterns, and talking about how to make better choices in the future. In 2019, this relationship history often involves…
Sep 19, 2019
Neglect is Sexy
Why Do People Find Neglect Sexy In Relationships?. Most people have had a relationship–or at the very least, seen their friends in one–in which they’re chasing the other person for their affection, attention, and time. From the outside, these relationships can seem perplexing. But from the inside, people are often strongly hooked in. Why? I sometimes joke with patients that it is because neglect…
Sep 12, 2019
Rather Than Getting Rid Of Anxiety, We Should Find A Fluid Way To Relate To It
Dealing With Anxiety Is More Complex Than Simply Getting Rid Of It . In both psychology and our culture at large, we often talk about treating anxiety by getting rid of it completely. Within this framework, there is one outcome for dealing with anxiety: not having anxiety. This thinking can corner people who are struggling, and make them feel stuck with the seemingly insurmountable task of…
Sep 05, 2019
Don't Hide After A Breakup: You Need Your Friends, Family, And Therapist
Breaking Up Is Painful And Isolating: A Team Of Your Friends, Family, And Therapist Can Provide Support. As a therapist, I see how people want to hide after a breakup. Often they are embarrassed, feeling at a loss, or that life as they know it doesn’t make sense or compare to their peers. There’s also a sense that they’d be bothering their friends by being in pain in front of someone who is…
Aug 29, 2019
Love is Always Conditional
The Myth of Unconditional Love Can Keep Couples In Unsafe Relationships. Patients frequently talk to me in therapy about their expectations of unconditional love in their romantic relationships, as well as the struggle of giving or receiving it. When I respond with, “Well, love is always conditional,” I’m consistently met with shock. That response is understandable. Culturally, we are fed the…
Aug 27, 2019
What Is The Role Of Love In Therapy?: Two NYC Therapists Discuss
Heather Mayone Kiely: One of the first things I noticed about how you approach couples therapy was your deep belief in love and in the relationship. You seem to really identify and connect quickly with a couple’s strengths, becoming a very powerful source for love and the relationship. It’s almost as if the relationship is a third entity that the couple has asked you to represent. Of course, all…
Aug 22, 2019
When Breaking Up Is The Best Hardest Decision
While Painful, Breaking Up Can Sometimes Be The Healthiest Option For A Couple. There are a lot of situations that push couples through my door–infidelity, conflict, and co-parenting struggles are just a few. Most of the time, though, couples are asking me, either explicitly or implicitly, to help them stay together. They want to work through issues, learn to see each other in new ways, and…
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