Couples
24 Signs You’re In Bad Therapy
Bad Therapy Is Bad For Your Health. As a therapist in NYC, a city with so many therapy options, it bugs me when people are in bad therapy. My biggest concern with patients who stick with bad therapy isn’t only that bad therapy turns people off to therapy, making it less likely they’ll try again and get good help, but it also lowers their expectations. Even when they reach out, they’ve been…
Jun 28, 2018
Ending A Relationship With An Unsafe Parent Or Family Member
Cutting Off A Parent Or Other Family Member Can Be Loaded. In my NYC therapy practice, I’ve worked with patients who have had to end a relationship with their mom, dad, sibling and on rare occasions, child. In far more instances, there is a need or desire to pare down the relationship, but there are always questions on how to draw those lines. In some cases though, cutting a family member off…
May 24, 2018
Getting Married? Don't Avoid Talking About The Tough Stuff In Premarital Counseling
Before Your Marriage, It’s Important To Talk About The Tough Stuff In Premarital Counseling. As a NYC therapist who does premarital counseling, I see couples often shy away from discussing the hard stuff before their marriage. But, planning for a marriage is more than just about the venue, the dress or the destination. It’s also important to get close to the dirt under the rug, so to speak–the…
May 17, 2018
Couples Therapy And The So-so Relationship
Couples Therapy: So-so Relationships Can Be Easy To Ignore. Perhaps the real enemy of happiness isn’t misery so much as mediocrity. As an NYC couples therapist, I find that’s often the case in marriage and long-term relationships. When things are a hot mess with constant fighting, hating spending time together or otherwise not getting along, at least there is still feeling that is likely to get…
May 10, 2018
Couples Therapy: 7 Strategies For Couples That Need To Walk Away From A Fight
All Couples Know: Arguing Can Get Out Of Control. For some couples I see in my couples therapy practice, the idea of a partner walking away in the moment of hurt or anger that comes with an argument is terrifying. It feels like an abandonment–because it usually is one. But for the health of the relationship, however, sometimes walking away is better than the alternative.Why Walk Away?. Many…
Mar 29, 2018
For Couples, A Simple Rule: You Can't Be Mean
Fighting For Couples Doesn’t Have To Be Mean. Most people are meaner than they realize when they’re upset. Couples therapy helps couples recognize this, but as a couples therapist, I like to go one step further, proposing that people have the capacity not to be mean. One can become aware of it and not give in.For many couples, the idea that fighting doesn’t have to be mean can feel like a breath…
Mar 22, 2018
How Do I Survive An Affair?: 4 Questions For When Your Partner Cheats
Beyond “Should I Stay Or Should I Go?”: Take Time To Pause After Your Partner’s Affair In Therapy. In my NYC therapy practice, I frequently see people who find out their partner had or is having an affair feel like they are in a tailspin. While you may (or may not) have suspected the affair, the shock is often overwhelming and painful. It leaves you with a whole lot of questions about how to move…
Feb 15, 2018
When Your Partner Needs Therapy
Your Partner Badly Needs Therapy–What Now?. I’m not one of those therapists who thinks everyone should go to therapy. Some people value the benefits of lower anxiety or better work performance. They use therapy to recover from trauma and be okay in the world. For others, it’s not their cup of tea. They may feel they need panic attacks or severe depression and want to hold onto their trauma.But,…
Feb 08, 2018
Affairs Are More Than Sex: Seeing Beyond The Cheating Through Therapy
In Therapy, An Affair Is More Than Just Sex. When working with patients who are having or had affairs in my NYC therapy practice, an affair isn’t just about sex. Yes, sex may (or may not) have started the affair, but that’s never the entire story. More than just one cheat, an affair is a type of second relationship or set of relationships.Folks who come to me for therapy during affairs typically…
Feb 01, 2018
Tribeca Therapy Quoted in 4 National Publications this Week (And Page 1 of the WSJ)
This week was a big week for our therapy practice in the national media. Starting with a fun read for couples in Refinery29 about the importance of cuddling, our director Matt was quoted in four different articles. The pieces range from the lighthearted to the timely–Greatist’s essay on the complexity of naming abusers is particularly significant. It’s also worth noting that “Let Me Tell You Some…
Jan 26, 2018
Men, Listen Up!: How Men Need To Develop In Light Of The Conversation About Sexual Harassment And Assault
Sexual Harassment And Sexual Assault Are A Cultural Problem–Male Privilege Is Part Of That. In “The Unexamined Brutality of the Male Libido,” recently published in The New York Times, Stephen Marche argues that men need to reexamine, what he calls, “the often ugly and dangerous nature of the male libido” in light of the current conversation about sexual harassment and assault. As an NYC…
Dec 14, 2017
Beyond Understanding: Doing Curious In Therapy
Understanding Isn’t The Only Goal In Therapy. In psychotherapy, there’s an implicit bias toward understanding in a scientific sense. Through therapy, you come to understand some fact or set of facts that is hidden from view. The assumption is often, but not always, that through understanding, you will feel better. Sometimes, in my NYC therapy practice, this is true.However, there are…
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