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24 Signs You’re In Bad Therapy
Bad Therapy Is Bad For Your Health. As a therapist in NYC, a city with so many therapy options, it bugs me when people are in bad therapy. My biggest concern with patients who stick with bad therapy isn’t only that bad therapy turns people off to therapy, making it less likely they’ll try again and get good help, but it also lowers their expectations. Even when they reach out, they’ve been…
Jun 28, 2018
After Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade's Suicides, Check On Your Friends, But Also Ask About Their Suffering
With Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade’s Deaths, The Impulse Is To Ask Why He Or She Did It, But Can We Understand Why Anyone Would Commit Suicide?. Like many in the past few weeks, I’ve been thinking and talking a lot, both in my NYC therapy practice and out, about Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade’s suicides. Bourdain and Spade were both brilliant. Very little they put out into the world was…
Jun 19, 2018
Ending A Relationship With An Unsafe Parent Or Family Member
Cutting Off A Parent Or Other Family Member Can Be Loaded. In my NYC therapy practice, I’ve worked with patients who have had to end a relationship with their mom, dad, sibling and on rare occasions, child. In far more instances, there is a need or desire to pare down the relationship, but there are always questions on how to draw those lines. In some cases though, cutting a family member off…
May 24, 2018
Getting Married? Don't Avoid Talking About The Tough Stuff In Premarital Counseling
Before Your Marriage, It’s Important To Talk About The Tough Stuff In Premarital Counseling. As a NYC therapist who does premarital counseling, I see couples often shy away from discussing the hard stuff before their marriage. But, planning for a marriage is more than just about the venue, the dress or the destination. It’s also important to get close to the dirt under the rug, so to speak–the…
May 17, 2018
Couples Therapy And The So-so Relationship
Couples Therapy: So-so Relationships Can Be Easy To Ignore. Perhaps the real enemy of happiness isn’t misery so much as mediocrity. As an NYC couples therapist, I find that’s often the case in marriage and long-term relationships. When things are a hot mess with constant fighting, hating spending time together or otherwise not getting along, at least there is still feeling that is likely to get…
May 10, 2018
Are You Stuck In A Bad Friendship?: Learning To Stand Up For Yourself In Therapy
Bad Friendships Are Both A Product And Reinforcement Of A Poor View Of Yourself. Both in my NYC therapy practice and out, I’ve noticed that when we don’t feel good about ourselves, we tend to have poor standards for the friends we hang out with. Friendships are relationships in which people make each other feel good. If that’s not happening, it’s not such a good friendship. Bad friendships are…
May 03, 2018
Parents, Want To Build Influence With Your Kids? Try Co-Creating Rules
Parenting Therapy: Who Are You That This Child Should Listen To You And Your Rules?. When working with parents in my NYC therapy practice, I often invite them to think about the following question: Who are you that this child should listen to you? It’s not intended at all to be smug, though I respect that it can tend to come off that way. When kids are quite little, the question doesn’t matter…
Apr 19, 2018
There Is A Danger In Not Taking Teens Seriously–Especially When It Comes To Gun Control
We Need To Take Teens Seriously About Guns. On a recent Wednesday morning, I happened to have a break when I heard chanting outside the window of my NYC therapy practice. The noises were not that unusual given that my Tribeca office is just a block away from City Hall, a frequent site of protests. It didn’t take me long to remember when I saw teenagers marching with signs that read “Never Again!”…
Apr 12, 2018
The Death Of A Sibling Changes Everything
Losing a Sibling Is A Shock That Changes Everything. In our NYC therapy practice, we treat patients who have to deal with the many changes that come with grieving the loss of a sibling. No matter what your relationship was with your brother or sister, he or she has likely always been there in one way or another–on holidays, at birthdays, on weekends or even, daily. There was a rhythm to the way…
Apr 05, 2018
Couples Therapy: 7 Strategies For Couples That Need To Walk Away From A Fight
All Couples Know: Arguing Can Get Out Of Control. For some couples I see in my couples therapy practice, the idea of a partner walking away in the moment of hurt or anger that comes with an argument is terrifying. It feels like an abandonment–because it usually is one. But for the health of the relationship, however, sometimes walking away is better than the alternative.Why Walk Away?. Many…
Mar 29, 2018
For Couples, A Simple Rule: You Can't Be Mean
Fighting For Couples Doesn’t Have To Be Mean. Most people are meaner than they realize when they’re upset. Couples therapy helps couples recognize this, but as a couples therapist, I like to go one step further, proposing that people have the capacity not to be mean. One can become aware of it and not give in.For many couples, the idea that fighting doesn’t have to be mean can feel like a breath…
Mar 22, 2018
Tribeca Therapy Talks Diagnosis And Non-Diagnostic Therapy in Refinery29
Does diagnosis matter? Why might your therapist not give you a diagnosis? Here at Tribeca Therapy, we’ve addressed our non-diagnostic approach to therapy on both our website and our blog. Recently, though, we were given the chance to speak about diagnosis and non-diagnostic therapy with Refinery29’s Kimberly Truong in her article “Why Your Therapist Might Not Tell You Your Diagnosis.” In the…
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