So many people that walk through the door of my NYC therapy practice are high achieving, bright, and successful. However, many find themselves struggling in certain areas of their lives because they had to grow up too fast. We often get to a place in our work where they ask me a version of: “If I can be so successful in (one area of life), why do I struggle so much in (insert other life area here)?”
Although that last part can change, the answer is usually pretty consistent: when a resilient kid does not grow up with enough safety and leadership, the kid ends up having to do a great deal of extra work. Often the result is that kid grows up highly developed in some areas but really struggles in others.